Equilibration ~ the achievement of a balance between opposing elements or forces.

I was introduced to this term, “Equilibration”, a little less than a year ago.  I began co-creating with John Castagnini, founder of the “Thank God I” book series in telling a story of events in my life.  I wrote a series of paragraphs describing the sexual molestation, denial from family and law authorities, and the emotional roller coaster I felt for the larger part of my life. Through this physical story, several interviews and speaking engagements, I started to understand the essence of Equilibration. . . more on this in a moment.

This morning, after finishing my daily workout, I sat in the lobby of Nashville’s Gaylord Opryland Resort and Convention Center eating breakfast.  In front of me, on the black, glossy table, laid the USA Today Newspaper. One of the main articles read, “No Closure for Columbine – Decade Later, Colorado tragedy still charges emotions.”  This caught my attention and proceeded to read this amazing article.

In the story, it depicted blow-by-blow of the shootings, the emotions, the families affected, and the history of the loopholes for gun control laws. There are even pictures of the teenagers who were the catalyst in carrying out this event; and here we are 10 years later looking back.

Disclaimer ~ Before I go further in to my article, I am in no way condoning behaviour that harms another.

For so long, I remember this story affecting everyone in high schools, schools, family, large communities, small communities, TV shows and movies. We have seen and read all of the “perceived” evil and wrong-doing – but here is where the Essence of Equilibration is so beautiful.

Through this event:

1. National, and perhaps even global, awareness was raised towards the emotional strain teenagers feel on a day-to-day basis.

2.  One of the shot teenagers motivated herself to learn how to walk again in less than six months. She crossed the stage to receive her diploma, in a time when many thought she may not recover. She is now a social worker assisting others through their perceived tragedies. She can truly empathize with those she touches.

3. One of the victim’s fathers, fought for a change in law for gun control so that teenagers would have less of an opportunity to buy their own guns.

4. Many of the students went on to publicly speak about their experiences so that others would be motivated and inspired.

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5. One of the students, later in life, wrote a screenplay, which has been produced, and will be shown later this April.

Equilibration is a process that balances out what we perceive as “negative” and as “positive” so that there is a state of inspiration and balance. Do you see that through a “tragic” event, so much good came out of it?

In my own story, “Thank God I … was Sexually Molested.” , I am truly embracing the Essence of Equilibration. I am not a victim of my circumstances, and I am inspired to share with you my perspective of how I am grateful for a series of events and gratitude that brought me to equilibration.  Would you like to know more? Write me at alisonanail@hotmail.com and I will enjoy sharing with you.

Living Vivaciously,
Alison Nail, alisonanail@hotmail.com
Spiritual Catalyst and Life Coach
Harmony In Healing
(www.harmonyinhealing.com)

Inspirational Thoughts for Vivacious Living: What is your relationship to the present moment?
April 6th, 2009

What is your relationship to the present moment?

“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

I am sure you have heard this isn’t anything you can do now about your past, and plan for your future. Many of us spend time focused on the past ~ our mistakes, our conversations, our moments. Many of us spend doing so much to prepare for the future ~ future money, future plans, future conversations, and moments. How many of us really spend focused on the present moment?

What does that truly mean ~ to focus our attention on the present?

It is inevitable think of all three areas; but where do you spend your time and energy concentrating on? Sure, we need to learn from our past and we need to prepare for our future; however, our past has already happened and the future is uncertain. It does practice to remember that the present moment is the only moment we truly have. When we spend time in other “times and memories”, we miss out on opportunities that we could be embracing for our success, for our peacefulness, and our clarity.

What are the benefits to focusing on the present?

Reduced Stress, Increased Enjoyment, Better Bonds with Others, and Focused Energy on Projects.

There is no single way or methodology will get you more efficient to being present ~ it just takes practice. Some rather easy ways to being this practice:

1. As you walk, begin to feel how your muscles feel and the sounds of the rocks or pavement underneath your feet.
2. Sit outside; identify each color before you. Take a few deep breaths, clothes your eyes and recognize the sounds around you.
3. When you are with someone, look in to their eyes. Focus your energy in listening to every word they say. Ignore any other sounds or distractions for at least 10 -15 minutes.

If you have done this in the past, but you have begun to loose a sense of centered-ness, just go back to the basics for being present for yourself.

Explore your Vivacious Life by Knowing what is your relationship to the present moment!

Please feel free to connect with me to explore deeper in to Vivaciousness!

Living Vivaciously,
Alison Nail, alisonanail@hotmail.com
Spiritual Catalyst and Life Coach
Harmony In Healing
(www.harmonyinhealing.com)