I really enjoy reading Brene Brown. Her style is so unique and personal. She is also very transparent. Over the past decade I have learned that in order to have healthy relationships I need both transparency and boundaries. Transparency for me comes in the form of intimacy and vulnerability.
I read a bumper sticker last year, it stated, “A good friend can see through you and enjoys the view!” My appreciation for that simple phrase came because I realized that it wasn’t in spite of who we are, but because of who we are that people love us. In order to have great relationships, I have to be willing to share my self, struggles, viewpoints, affection, words of affirmation, etc.. Even if we don’t agree it is important to feel heard, validated and understood, that is how real connection takes place. In my work with clients I have found that boundaries are one of the most common things that are lacking in relationships.
Boundaries are the way in which we teach other people how we want to be treated by letting them know what is okay and what is not. Through appropriate boundaries we are able to facilitate connection and feel deeply invested in a community, family and individual relationships. Being able to hold appropriate boundaries is how we show others that we value ourselves so that they can reflect that belief back to us. I wanted to share some videos and resources so that others can adventure into this territory of self-worth.
Be careful, this video may change your life….